How To Know If the Marriage Is Over Before The Wedding
Getting married; it can be so exciting...maybe too exciting? How do you know if the marriage might be on the rocks before you even get started? Truly; I guess you never really know. Some people get along by fighting...that's their 'thing.' Others have one spouse that's happy and one that isn't. You just never know.
But; if you want a little sneak preview on how the marriage is going to be: Just ask a wedding photographer if they can tell if a couple is going to make it past the 5 year mark...I bet they have a pretty good guess. Here are some red flags for you to think about when the wedding might be the focus rather than the marriage itself.
THE WEDDING ITSELF IS 'OVER THE TOP'
- Do you need a million bridesmaids?
- Do you need a cake that covers two continents?
- Do you need flower petals dropped before you walk down the isle, and 5 songs sung during the ceremony?
- Do you need candles and a congregation that has matching clothes?
The point being: if the focus is on the wedding not actually being together forever...it might be something to reconsider.
RED FLAGS- SHOULD YOU RECONSIDER
- ATTITUDE: Are the Bride & Groom always dIsrespectful to the other person on a daily basis? This is probably a bad sign. If you aren't getting along before you get married; why are you doing it? You don't HAVE to be hitched.
- If the Bride cares more about the stuff, than the groom. HMMMMMM.....Isn't spending your lives together what this should all be about?
- Disregard of the Budget: If you don't keep the budget on task, it could be a sign of future financial issues...Do you want to be paying for your wedding day for the next 5 years? Are your parents on a budget helping you?
MARRIAGES THAT LAST
Being excited about your wedding is a wonderful thing; but if the focus is on having a beautiful day together; it may be a sign that this is 'The Real Deal'.
- The couple makes reasonable decisions together.
- Disagreements are discussed and respectful.
- The focus is more on the vows rather than the size of the wedding
- The ring 'means something' rather than just being the biggest and most expensive you could find.